Ever had someone put their fingers around your wrist, to measure how small you are, and then say, “could you get any skinnier?” If the answer is yes, you’ve probably got skinny girl problems.
Skinny girl problems, in my opinion, are very broad. So, I’ll make it clear now that we’re not going to be talking about the eating disorder side of things (such as anorexia or bulimia) but instead, we’re going to talk about the naturally skinny girls with a fast metabolism (or high basal metabolic rate) – who just don’t put on weight!
There are many factors that can play into having a fast metabolism, and one important factor is genetics. For me, personally, genetics is my main reason. Other factors can be things such as stress, smoking, hyperthyroidism etc. I’ve experienced some of the other factors in my older years, but I’ve always had a little frame and trouble gaining weight so I’m well aware it’s mainly genetics for me.
If you weren’t aware, there are three body types: ectomorphs (thin build), mesomorphs (athletic build) and endomorphs (big build).
Like father, like daughter.
I’m an ectomorph, and so is my father – which is where I get it from. My father and I both have thin builds with small shoulders and delicate, petite, frames. We also don’t have much muscle mass and we find it super hard to gain weight and even harder to put muscle on. Yet, just because it’s hard that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. I’ve never cared to build muscle or put much weight on but my father has. He used to work out a lot and has been able to build muscles with a fast metabolism. (Picture below)
So to just wrap that up, I’m skinny with a fast metabolism and I don’t care to put on weight but my father is small too, but he does care, and with time and dedication has been able to put on weight – although it’s a much harder process than that of people who don’t have a fast metabolism.
When you are a small person with a fast metabolism, people always have something to say – and it’s hardly ever nice. For every, “You’re so slim like a model!”, there are 10 “You need to eat! You’re all bones!”
Having a fast metabolism is personal to each individual. Some of us like it and some of us don’t. It causes health issues for some of us, and doesn’t affect some of us at all. Don’t assume that you know how we feel about our fast metabolisms and our weight – because you don’t know a thing. Unless we tell you that we have an issue with our weight, do not talk to us about our weight. It is rude.
Some people are on a long and hard journey into putting on weight and building muscle. You have no idea what they are going through, or how hard it is for them to stay motivated. Do you honestly think that constantly telling them how skinny they are is going to help them? No, you don’t, you’re just being nosey and rude. Mind your business.
No one asked you for your opinion, so you should keep it to yourself if it isn’t coming from a good place.
Also, the double standards that come with skinny girl problems are insane. People think that it’s acceptable to talk about how skinny someone is in the most derogatory ways but if a skinny person ever said anything about a fat person then all hell would break loose.
“You mean people can tell you that you need to put weight on but you can’t tell people to lose weight?” Yes, that’s exactly what I mean.
The thing is, I wouldn’t ever go up to someone and say, “Wow. You’re so fat!”, and then grab their stomach to show just how fat they are. That’s absolutely out of order – and it’s the same thing as what people do to skinny people and get away with.
To all of the disrespectful people, you are not allowed to touch me without my permission – especially not to judge my weight. Yes Sherlock, I know that I’m skinny. I knew long before you did, so you don’t need to make me aware of something so obvious. Whether I’m happy with my size or not is none of your business and it would be much appreciated if you get your big gob shut. If you make a nasty comment, one day I’m going to return it to sender with something equally as nasty to show you just how horrible it feels. I’d rather not ever make you feel this way, and I know that two wrongs don’t make a right, however two wrongs may teach you a lesson because sometimes those who can’t hear must feel. Life would be much easier if we all respected one another instead.
To my fellow skinny girls and guys, the next time someone makes a comment just understand this. The person making the nasty comment about you is only running their big gob to burn calories because they want to be skinny like you. Pray for them.
This is shorter than I wanted it to be because as I was about to write all of the examples, I started to feel angry and frustrated and relive all of the experiences. So, instead I refrained for my own mental well-being and instead I’ll ask you all to use your own imaginations.
Moving forward, be mindful of the comments you make about people’s weight. If not asked for your opinion, say nothing. If asked, be careful.
Thank you for reading!
This post is dedicated to my friend Abbie Lunn, who also has skinny girl problems. You’re amazing girl – and you can eat what you want without having to worry about counting the calories. If you ask me, this life is fabulous!
Love and light, Liss x